what you’re doing isn’t working, look to others for a better example.
How happy are you with your emotional health? If you could stand to function better emotionally, look to what emotionally healthy people tend to do. Use this list as a resource to highlight areas to focus on in your own life.
According to experts around the web, emotionally health people tend to do the following:
1. They are capable of understanding and expressing their emotions.
According to Dr. Shannon Kolakowski at Huffington Post, emotionally healthy people have developed the ability to understand their emotions and how to handle them. They get why they are feeling a certain way and work to express themselves effectively. People who struggle emotionally have a hard time processing their emotions, therefore are unable to find a way to neutralize their feelings.
2. They are able to recover after a failure.
Guy Winch at Psychology Today suggests that some of us tend to take the blow of failure too hard. People that are healthy emotionally have the ability to gain control of their emotions after a failure and not let it affect them too much. By doing this, they can learn from their errors and improve healthy function while improving their chances of succeeding.
3. They know when to stress out.
A high school student came up with this one. Here is the justification:
People who are emotionally healthy know when and when not to stress out. For example, if a healthy person is late for a meeting and waiting at a bus stop, she will not bother stressing out about the bus coming because it will not make a difference. Stressing out will not affect when the bus arrives.
On the other hand, it is reasonable to be stressed if the problem at hand is under their control, because a certain amount of stress is useful and healthy. For instance, if someone has procrastinated on an assignment, it is reasonable for them to have stress because that stress will motivate them to get the assignment done.
4. They stay physically healthy.
Physical health definitely plays a key role in your emotional health. They have been proven to have a direct correlation. Those who are emotionally healthy have been known to stay fit in order to maintain healthy hormone levels, vitamin levels, and so on. Also, exercise is a significant stress reliever and can be an outlet for everyday struggles. So, staying healthy can function as a way to stay balanced and stress-free.
5. They can display both introverted and extroverted qualities (to an extent) and still be happy.
Barry John Johnson at Mind Body Green suggests the following:
Everyone has natural introverted or extroverted qualities. These traits become unhealthy, though, when an introvert is unhappy when forced into interaction with people, or when an extrovert becomes unhappy when forced to be alone.
It is okay to be introverted or extroverted, but it is unhealthy when these qualities dictate your life to an extent where it is prohibiting you from functioning. In other words, it is okay to spend the weekend at home if you’re an introvert, but it becomes unhealthy when you cannot interact with other people because of how much time you spend alone.
6. They practice self-acceptance.
Cynthia Kane suggests that it is extremely easy to criticize every detail about ourselves, and it even occurs in emotionally healthy people. The hard part, though, is accepting our flaws. It is a universal truth that everyone has flaws, but those who have come to accept this fact are those who are happy and healthy.
By accepting their flaws, emotionally healthy people stop comparing themselves to others because they see that no one is perfect. In doing this, they are liberated from inadequacy and can find confidence.
Being emotionally healthy is something that takes constant work and commitment to yourself. But, by seeing how people who are emotionally healthy act, it becomes easier to apply techniques into your own life to improve your emotional well-being.
7. They understand emotional self-sabotage.
At the iNLP Center, we practice getting daily emotional AHA moments. This is possible because we’ve uncovers an uncomfortable truth about human nature. Here it is: Part of you may want to remain emotionally stuck. Why? Because it’s familiar. Various levels of emotional “stuckness” may be so ingrained that true emotional health may seem like a foreign concept to you.
We always say that people will choose a familiar misery over a foreign happiness every time. What can be done about this? First, learn how self-sabotage works. Then, slowly but surely, using daily AHA moments that come from recognizing self-sabotage, work your way out of this trap.